Dear mothers everywhere,
What you really want, no-one can give you.
“Happy Mother’s Day!” squeal my two youngest children as they stride into the bedroom. Groggily I open my eyes and see that it is 5am. My two adorable children are walking towards me holding plates of “breakfast”. As my eyes focus, I suddenly bolt upright when I realise that the “breakfast” is a raw egg swirling about on a plate with a piece of bread. Disaster waiting to happen!
I jump out of bed with a smile on my face and cheerily say “Thank you! Let’s take this downstairs so we don’t wake Daddy.”
And so Mother’s Day begins….
As mothers, we are given many things on Mother’s Day – some we can’t stomach like raw egg on bread! We are given cards, posters, “best mum ever” mugs. massages and facials. But is it what we really want deep down? I have gift certificates for massages and facials in my top drawer that have expired because I never used them. Why is that? I love massages!
But it is not what I really want. What I really, really want is …
Someone (anyone!) to tell me:
- Take a break
- Look after yourself
- You are doing a great job
As I thought more and imagined this happening, I realised that I was already making the excuses and discounting my efforts in my mind. I was mentally putting those “gifts” in the drawer to be forgotten about and expire like my spa certificates.
Then I realised that what I really wanted didn’t come in boxes, or breakfasts or bags. It didn’t come with platitudes or gags. Most importantly, it didn’t come from anyone else.
It comes from me.
If you are like me – the super sacrificing mother, then you need to give yourself a precious present first.
I needed to give myself permission – permission to receive.
Give yourself permission to take a break and look after yourself. Self-care is crucial to our wellbeing as mothers and thus the wellbeing of our families.
When we give ourselves permission and honour ourselves, everything changes. That is the what I really want for every mother on Mother’s Day.
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